My mother always warned me to never make important decisions out of fear. Don't you hate it when mom is right? I have written before about the dangers of making choices when our brains are in panic mode, but I've yet to address what happens to our deeper sense of self.
We all have some concept of our core. It is based on a set of values we hold true and a character whose integrity you protect. Not only does fear tend to lure us into bending our principles, but it can make you lose sight of the whole person you've worked to become.
I have had moments, days even, when I feel so disconnected from that woman I know I truly am, I'm terrified I'll never find her. She has strength. She is brilliant and caring and outgoing and a good friend. She would know what do right now. And I look in the mirror for some trace of her, but I see this stranger looking back and I dive deeper into my fear.
That woman has been right here all along. The problem was that I stopped focusing on her, and instead chose to become emersed in my worries until my perspective got so blurred, I could no longer see her.
Don't let that happen to you. Hold on to the person you've worked so hard to become. Don't allow others to tear you apart or let your worries cloud your vision. Fear is temporary. Feel it and move on. And if you should ever find that you've lost your core, ask those who love you to reflect it back so you can clearly see again.
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