Where do you fall on your list of priorities? If you spend all your time and energy on taking care of everyone else while neglecting yourself, you will quickly burn out- and then you're no help to anyone at all! Focusing on yourself doesn't mean you're being selfish- it means you are self-aware.

Furthermore, since when does being "selfish" have such a negative connotation? Let's define being "selfish" as meaning that you are truly mindful and present in your own life and are self-driven, self-motivated, and self-sufficient. It means that you are genuine and you know yourself. That you are a strong enough person to support, inspire, and uplift others. You take care of yourself so that you are best able to care about others.